How your nervous system can become your guide in healing

When Your Nervous System Becomes Your Guide in Healing

Many people who come to my practice with chronic symptoms or long-term fatigue are caring, empathetic, and deeply responsible. They do their best, are attentive, often sensitive, and have a strong radar for what others need. And yet… they feel exhausted, tense, or experience physical pain that just won’t go away.

What I often see is this: that constant “doing your best” is not who they truly are, but rather an old survival strategy. A deeply ingrained pattern in the nervous system. And as long as we keep living from that place, the body continues to send signals — through stress, tension, and eventually, pain.

A Silent Burden on the Body

You take care of others, do what’s needed, and show up as dependable. But beneath that behavior often lies something else — something unconscious. In many cases, it stems from childhood, where you learned that adapting was necessary to stay safe. But this constant focus on others, that deep-rooted alertness, slowly drains your energy.

Your nervous system stays in a state of high alert, always ready to respond to external cues. As long as you believe that your safety depends on keeping others happy, your internal alarm system won’t switch off.

Your Persistent Symptoms Are Not Just Physical
Your body speaks through physical signals — pain, muscle tension, fatigue. These symptoms may actually stem from emotional or psychological stress. Not imagined complaints, but rather an intelligent body trying to communicate with you.

Because when you repeatedly ignore your own needs, your body starts to speak louder. Your back aches, your gut reacts, your jaw tightens. And you wonder: Why isn’t this going away, even though I try so hard?

Does Healing Begin by Trying Less?

What if you don’t need to work even harder on yourself? What if healing begins by learning to think less, worry less — and simply be more?

You are already enough — not only when things go perfectly or when everyone is happy with you. It’s possible that you’re still holding on to unconscious negative beliefs that once protected you, but in 2025, may now only be holding you back.

In my practice, I see it time and again: when people begin to recognize and release these patterns, space opens up. For healing. For self-acceptance. For reclaiming a sense of personal power.

Rediscovering Yourself Beyond the Pattern

That’s why we explore those old patterns together — the beliefs you’ve come to accept, and the reasons your nervous system once chose to be on high alert. Gradually, you can bring softness into that vigilance. Step by step, you can begin to experience more space for rest, relaxation, and inner direction — beyond the pressure of who you think you “should” be.

Autonomy as a Path to Healing

True healing doesn’t come from more effort or more adjusting, but from returning to your own inner wisdom. From starting to feel again: Where are my boundaries? Is this really mine to carry, or have I taken on something that doesn’t belong to me? What do I need for healing — apart from what others expect from me? What do I want? What brings me joy? And how can I give that more space in my life?

Often in our work together, we start with simply learning to relax. So your body and mind can begin to feel more calm, safe, and spacious. As a hypnotherapist, I guide you toward that state of inner peace — where you can truly feel what it’s like to just be. To do nothing for a moment. To rest.

And along this journey of healing, we often uncover a belief you’ve carried for years. One that, once seen and acknowledged, can begin to soften or even dissolve. Because you are not your pain, or your restlessness. You are so much more than that. And that more deserves to come into view — to be seen again.

Does This Resonate?

If something in these words speaks to you, I invite you to walk the path of healing with me. Not to fix yourself, but to reconnect with your inner wisdom and your natural ability to heal.

You don’t have to do it alone.

Mirjam Verschoor
Psychosocial Therapist & Hypnotherapist